Reflection

How to develop self-respect


How to develop self-respect? If looking at other people doesn’t develop one’s self-respect then the answer to this question is to stop looking at other people. Start looking at the self. The next question is ‘is it not selfish to look at the self?’

If you don’t look at other people, you will stop comparing yourself to them and you will start seeing your self-worth.

You experience a constant oscillation between high and low, superior and inferior, arrogance and depression through comparing yourself to other people. And it is definitely not comfortable. If you want to free yourself from this oscillation, if you want to invest your time and energy for something that frees you from experiencing this insecurities, then is it selfish?

To look at the self means to be reflective. To really ask the self what has gone wrong, what really needs to be done. It is like a heart-to-heart dialogue. You need to be very honest in this. The self is naked. Nothing to hide, including the insecurities. For some people it makes them uncomfortable, some avoid doing this.

When you can see your self-worth, when you develop your self respect, the automatic consequence is that you will start seeing it in others. You will start treating other people with respect too. What you keep doing to yourself will be reflected on how you treat other people. In other words, what you show externally is a reflection of what you do to yourself internally. So to start looking at one’s self is not selfish, because at the end it will be projected on others too. Kindness will not remain kept inside. A kind heart is a loving heart. Love is energy generated in the heart, it flows.

If someone is rude or unfriendly or even violent to other people, then understand that he surely does the same to himself. He is just reflecting what is inside. He is expressing his inner reality. You can not expect something different from this person. Have mercy on him instead.

9 thoughts on “How to develop self-respect

  1. Good point, Song of Heart, but I was always the one who saw others and treated others better than myself. I grew up that way. But that never stopped me from giving them the kindness of respect, because that’s what I would hope in return, but it didn’t turn out that way with everyone. I would come up disappointed, even within my own family. That’s when I would turn my focus onto Jesus and remind myself of the parables He told and the examples His followers gave of how to be to one another….Love your neighbor as yourself. Who is your neighbor? Anyone…. Everyone.♥️
    1 John 4:11 – Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another.

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