Journey

Live like you are broke

We have come to the end of January and we are going to leave it very soon. I feel new year was just yesterday. Time flies so fast. Do you think so?

I am going to write about a resolution. A new year resolution. New year has passed, but I think it is still valid to talk about it. If I don’t have made one on the 1st January, I would not feel bad about it. I free myself to make it anytime during the year. I also free myself to make some revision on what I have made. Anyway it is all for me and what I am going to do with me and my life.

Do you have any fear in life? What is your biggest fear? If someone asks me this question, I can give my honest answer very quickly. My biggest fear is to become broke. I am afraid of having no money and I can’t afford buying anything I need. I think being broke really sucks. Sometimes I feel embarrased when I am sharing this to people. But I think to feel embarrased also means to have another fear. So I decided to just share it.

One of my last year resolutions was to live like I was broke. Let me live like I am broke before I really become broke. I remembered one of the Buddhist teachings that relates to this. It says ‘Die before you die. When you die, you don’t die’.  It is very enlightening, isn’t it? So I set myself to become like I was broke in spending. I tried my best to be less spending. I know some people are having no spending challenge. I think this is a cool idea. No spending week or no spending month or even no spending year.

When I just made this resolution I shared it to a friend, she looked shocked hearing this from me. I still remember her expression on her face, but it was not the first time for me to make her shocked.

Mindful Spending

I learned one thing from having this resolution last year, I became more aware of the value of money. I became more mindful in spending.

Journal of the day

How to meditate

Meditation is a self-talk. Noone but you involve in this. You need to do it alone. I understand that many people find it uncomfortable to have a self-talk. My friends learned meditation but they did not continue this because they do not enjoy having a self-talk.

Meditation is a practice for the mind

How to talk to yourself? A friend asked me this question.
You can’t talk to yourself until the self is ready to listen. The self is not ready to listen due to the noise in the mind. So you need to make the mind calm first. Observe what is going on in the mind. Just observe. Put yourself as a detached observer. If you can put yourself as a detached observer for quite a while, then you will notice that your mind starts to calm down. Only then you can start talking.

The following is an example of meditation commentary to help you to have a self-talk. This is not a mantra. Meditation is not not a religious practice, so you can free yourself to create your own, in your own language.

Meditation commentary – Body and Soul
I remind myself that I am not just this physical body. Inside this body there is the true me. A pure spirit. I am the spirit living in this body. I am light. I am subtle. I am the energy inside this body. I am eternal. I am not growing older, I will never die. A spirit never dies.

This body is the vehicle for the soul. I am the soul, driving this body. I take the control of the body. I am aware of my mind and what it creates. I am aware of every thought that I create. I listen to my mind. I listen to myself. I am aware the 3 personalities within me. I am aware that they keep speaking. I listen. I observe.

I make this time to listen to myself. I listen to the voice in my head. The voice of the 3 personalities in me.
I make this time to see myself inside.
I make this time for myself.
I take care of myself.

Reflection

Easy steps to quiet your mind


Meditation is an art to deal with the noise of the self in your own head. Can you hear the constant noise inside your head? Or do you find it easy to make it quiet? A friend said to me that it is very hard to make the mind quiet. Who makes that noise? You have the 3 personalities inside you, “the inferior I”, “the superior I” and “the real I.” For many people it is their “inferior I” that makes noise more than the other two personalities. You might hear the voices like “I am not good enough.” “I am not valued.” ”I am excluded.”  This is the noise made by the “inferior I”. You might hear voice like “I know better.” “I am more experienced.” “They should listen to me.” Which voice do you listen the most?  And the “the real I” ussually speak the least. “the real I” always speaks the uplifting voice.

The 3 personalities

You need to deal with those 3 personalities in your head to make the mind quiet. How to deal with it? Observe, listen and don’t judge. This is the easy steps to start a mediation:
1. Find a place to sit where you would not get distracted during your meditation session.
2. Sit comfortably and relaxed.
3. Let your eyes open
4. Turn your attention within (inside your forehead). It is where the mind is located.
Observe what is going on.
5. Acknowledge the noise. Acknowledge which personality is speaking or creating that noise.
6. Let them speak.
7. Keep observing, keep listening.
8. Don’t judge.

If you keep observing and not judging, ussually they will become quiet. Only then you can let “the real I” speak any thought that elevates you like “I am great.” Let the intellect listen that thought and churn it. To churn it means to think it more deeply. Bring your awareness to it. The heart will very soon generate a feeling of greatness. You feel what you think. Choose to think elevated thoughts and you will generate elevated feelings.

Mediation is a powerful way to take your energy back – emotional, mental and spiritual energy. You might need to practice this everyday and make it into your self-care routine.

Journal of the day

Meditation


Meditation is one of my self-care routines to boost my energy level quite instantly. I have heard many questions on meditation like “How to mediate?” “How to focus the mind?” “How to make the mind concentrated?” “How to control the mind when it starts wandering while I am sitting to meditate?” I think many people have understood that meditation is an exercise for the mind. Let’s agree with this.

To meditate is not to empty your mind. The nature of the mind is to create a thought, to think, to be creative. Never expect that when your mind is empty (no thoughts) only then you will become peaceful, only then you can control it. Trust me it will never happen. In fact you need to let your mind be creative. When you start meditating, let your mind create some good thoughts. What kind of thoughts do you need to create? You are free to create any thought that elevates you. You are the creator. So you are free to create any thought. “I am a child of God. I belong to God. I am loved and protected.” “I am free. I am an angel for the world. I belong to everyone. I love everyone. I accept everyone.” “I am a giver. I always have something to give to the world – peace, love, courage, powers, support. I have what the world needs.” Never think that the thought you create is too high. Nothing is impossible for the spirit. After the mind creating that thought, let the intellect work on that thought by churning it. Let it extract a deeper understanding (wisdom) from that thought. Let it convince itself. Faith is then developed in the intellect. Then the heart will follow. It will generate very nice feeling. It becomes an elevated feeling to start the day, if you do it in the morning.

For me, meditation is not a religious practice, it is a spiritual practice. This is a practice for the spirit. So meditation is for everyone.

Journal of the day · Reflection

Mindfulness

My friend who is from Suriname only moved to this city last year. She said to me that she only heard the noise of the traffic from her apartment where she lives in. She never heard birds chirping. Many birds might have moved away from the city. In fact, we do not live really far from each other. I said to her that every morning I still could enjoy birds chirping from the roof top. She might just not be aware of it. The next morning she texted to me excitedly that she heard rooster making a morning wake up call. She was so amazed and asked herself if it was always doing it everyday, but she just didn’t hear it. Because the awareness was not there, so the rooster didn’t seem to exist to her.

She wrote this: “I am just having a break from my work and sitting on my sofa and I hear birds chirping. So sweet.”

This covid-19 has brought new awarness in many of us. Being more aware of what is around us including what is in the nature. Everything might be the same, but because there is no awarness, they do not seem to exist to us. They are too small compared to our focus in our day-to-day life. We miss to enjoy and appreciate their existence. To be mindful is to be aware. Being aware is being in the now.

Thank you for sharing, Kawita.