Cancer

What comes to mind when you hear the word cancer? How does it make you feel to consider the word? Does it make you feel fearful?

Do you have anyone in your family or in your circle who has died of this illness?

Personally I know many people who have died from this disease. This has left a strong feeling of fear in me. I remember what they went through and it was not easy at all.

Everytime I think of them and their suffering, I wish I could give them power to relieve their pain. I imagine myself having a super power to do it. I just cannot stand seeing anyone in pain, weak or hopeless.

I have a friend who is an Oncologyst. He said: ‘Actually you should worry too much about cancer. Because the number one killer is cardiovasculair disease. Anything with the heart disease. Not cancer!’

Cancer doesn’t happen very quickly. It takes time. It often has to do with our lifestyle and a lifestyle related to health includes our diet, exercise and sleeping. We can do something about it.

I felt so relieved hearing this from a doctor.

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Dealing with our own fear is also very essential, how to become free from fear. Because fear is one of negative emotions that weakens our immune system. Being free from this emotion may give a very big impact to mental health and at the end it contributes to our happiness.

A Weight Loss

Is it hard to lose weight? Are you struggling for losing weight? You are not alone.

I think many people want to lose their weight. A friend even put weight loss on her new year resolution 🤭.

I have been struggling for this too. I failed many times. I have tried several differrent diets before and I failed gloriously. Since then I never put a weight loss in my new year resolution.

In the middle of this year I made a commitment to start a more healthy habit and it included my diet. The goal was to have a more healthy body and also weight loss. I even set a target for the weight I wanted to reach. My target was 13 kgs loss. Well it was a lot!!!

I heard people sharing negatively about how my diet would’t work, how they had failed etc. They tried to make me give up. I did not want to listen to any of them. I kept telling myself not to give up. One of them said that after reaching a certain weight, there would be no more loss. You will get stucked on that weight. I chose not to believe it. I chose not to get influenced by what she said.

Only after 2 months or so, I started to lose some weight. The good thing was that my cheongsam dresses that I bought ten years ago fit to me again. My weight came back to my weight ten years ago. Though my weight loss had not reached my goal.

Please do not get it wrong! It is not me.

My friends started to ask me my secret. I said that I would reveal the secret when I reach at least a half of my target. I hoped that I could reveal it before the year ends.

The target was actually on September 30th and I couldn’t make it. So I gave an extra time to myself. I gave myself so much patience by not giving pressure. Sometimes we need to treat ourselves gently. Allow yourself to get delayed and accept your own pace, but not to give up.

So, the secret remains unrevealed.

A Free Spirit

Imagine you can live the way you have always wanted and you enjoy it completely.

Imagine you can do everything you have always wanted without feeling that somebody will disagree.

Imangine you can dress the way you have always wanted just because you feel comfortable.

Imagine you can have hair style you have always wanted because you like it and you feel it fits you.

Imangine you have the freedom to be who you have always wanted to be.

Imagine you can express everything in your heart freely and the way you have always wanted to.

Imagine you don’t need anyone’s ‘approval’ for anything you want to do, want to have and want to wear.

Artists are associated with having the freedom to do all of these. They are not afraid of any judgment. I know an artist here. She told me that she is a painter, though I have never seen her artwork. She has tatoos on her arms. She is a young pretty girl. She is very courageous, cute and also funny. I think everybody agrees with me on this.

I have associated artist with being eccentric or looking eccentric, so does she. The other day I met her wearing two different socks. She likes wearing socks with no shoes indoors. The socks were more like for children, the short ones. Probably she feels more comfortable with it. One sock was upside down. I was wondering if she did it on purpose. Later she said that she was in a hurry to leave her appartment because a taxi had been waiting for her at the lobby. Yet, she felt so comfortable with it.

I met someone who knew her and we talked about her. I said to him: “She is a free spirit.”

….meaning that she can always do anything she likes without any feeling of worries.

She always expresses herself courageously, confidently and also comfortably.

She is just her own person. She is not worried that others might not like, approve, accept or love her.

I was not surprised when he said to me : “I have always wanted to become a free spirit like her.”

Many people have become people’s pleasure and they do not express themselves freely. They are not free spirits. You do not need to be an artist to become this. You just need courage.

Don’t grow too fast!

When someone said that she is not ready to see her little daughter grows too fast, I could relate to this. She is a lovely girl. So adorable and very kind. Such a little girl has learned how to sit elegantly by crossing one leg on top of the other. She just copied what she saw and heard from people around her. Super cute!

To see the small kids exlpore the world around them is very interesting.

A few years ago when we were still in a strick lockdown, I was working from home. I was so much entertained by innocent voice of a little boy who lives across my house. This little boy was calling another boy who lives just next door to play together standing behind the gate of his house. He kept calling. He might not understand what lockdown was, why everybody was encouraged to stay at home. A little kid needs a friend. He was very active in speaking. So active. His voice sounds so cute to my ears. He would ask everything. So curious!

This morning I met him with his mom and dad. Realizing that he is not as active as he was a few years ago, I said to him ‘please do not grow too fast.’

I am sure he doesn’t understand it at the moment and he will forget it, but he will understand one day.

At the moment, he is the youngest kid in our neigbourhood. All the kids from our early days when we just moved to our complex have grown up now.

Everybody loves the authenticity and spontaniety in kids. They are pure and honest. Probably these qualities have lost in adults.